Pat Conroy in his book "My Losing Season: A Memoir" wrote: "Loss invites reflection and reformulating and a change of strategies"
Losing. In terms of work,a loved one's demise or even breakup causes reflection. You suddenly start to think more about your life and how well you should have lived it. In the case of death you place yourself in the deceased shoes. As though you yourself have died and been resurrected. Given a second chance. That trip you've always wanted to take, that job of yours that you hate and so badly want to quit, that girl you adore but never had the guts to tel how you feel.
In a breakup however, love gone sour, friends parting ways, you suddenly start to re-think every decision you have ever made. Maybe if you had paid more attention, given more love, taken more time. You think "If this decision was so bad that it ended so ugly, what else have i made that could in my face blow up?" You hurt, you bleed, you ache.
You are allowed to momentarily feel all this, pain, regret, unsurety but NEVER unworthy, unloved or not beautiful. You are not in any instance allowed to feel not good enough, not pretty enough, not strong enough. You are not allowed any of that because the moment you allow such weak line of thought, you become of the sort.
Pat Conroy may have had a series of losses as quoted in this "best selling memoir" -see what i did there? But he is also quoted saying in this account of loss "Know this, i think you could be special if you only thought there was anything special about yourself."
Losing. In terms of work,a loved one's demise or even breakup causes reflection. You suddenly start to think more about your life and how well you should have lived it. In the case of death you place yourself in the deceased shoes. As though you yourself have died and been resurrected. Given a second chance. That trip you've always wanted to take, that job of yours that you hate and so badly want to quit, that girl you adore but never had the guts to tel how you feel.
In a breakup however, love gone sour, friends parting ways, you suddenly start to re-think every decision you have ever made. Maybe if you had paid more attention, given more love, taken more time. You think "If this decision was so bad that it ended so ugly, what else have i made that could in my face blow up?" You hurt, you bleed, you ache.
You are allowed to momentarily feel all this, pain, regret, unsurety but NEVER unworthy, unloved or not beautiful. You are not in any instance allowed to feel not good enough, not pretty enough, not strong enough. You are not allowed any of that because the moment you allow such weak line of thought, you become of the sort.
Pat Conroy may have had a series of losses as quoted in this "best selling memoir" -see what i did there? But he is also quoted saying in this account of loss "Know this, i think you could be special if you only thought there was anything special about yourself."
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